Their Save the Date card was an invitation to attend camp, a wedding camp, on a remote peninsula in Washington State. The picture wasn’t posed, a result of a professional photographer creating a snapshot of time to encapsulate their engagement. Instead it was the end of the hike they took when he announced that their forever should start now, with a commitment, a ring and a ceremony. His face in the photo, a man replacing the boyish charm I remember, was happy and full of life. He found her – he was always looking for the perfect complement to his existence, not the nearest route to changing who he was for the benefits of finding a forever. This invitation to a destination wedding was arresting in its perfect encapsulation of why their marriage is destined for greatness.
He and Dave were the best of friends when we lived Chicago. They met while cast in a Shakespeare show together, both new to the city, looking for a fresh start. He and Dave started a theatre together, one that changed who Dave was for the better and influences his life and choices to this day.
When Dave and I met, fell in love and decided to wed within moments of meeting this was the friend who scoped me out first, making sure I wasn’t a scary succubus or worse. He paced the hallways of the hospital when the birth of our daughter turned anxious and scary. When my pregnancy with Ninja became frantic and terrifying he was the one who held Dave together, held the company together, and prevented our world from collapsing around us as we tried to bring our littlest one into this world alive.
He lives thousands of miles away now, chasing a dream so beautiful and real my eyes flood with tears just thinking about it. I wish he lived around the corner so we could pace the halls when his beloved is laboring, or to hold his hand when he faces the inevitable tragedies we all face as we age. I’m not sure what place we hold in his life’s story, but in our story his role is sacred.
Looking at their picture, I am so grateful he found a ground breaking love that creates smiles emanating from his soul.
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